Die Weihnachtszeit genießen – ohne Stress

Self-hypnosis is really great! I love self-hypnosis and use it a lot. Maybe you want to do something good for yourself or help yourself effectively and change negative beliefs or behaviours? Then self-hypnosis is just the thing. You can learn this powerful technique from a hypnotist, in a course or from a book. Here I share a self-hypnosis method with you that is really very simple and effective. I will explain how you can do it in 3 steps. 1. The Right Time is Important Twice a day you are naturally in a trance state and therefore very suggestible. This means that your unconscious is wide open and can automatically receive suggestions, positive sentences, affirmations and the like. At these times, your conscious mind does not interfere. These special times are in the morning immediately after you wake up and in the evening shortly before you go to sleep. It is important that you also use these times for your self-hypnosis. So in the morning you do your self-hypnosis exercise first and only then devote time to your mobile phone, your children, your partner or do what you would normally do in the morning. In the evening, your self-hypnosis should be the last thing you do. Don't read or listen to anything else afterwards. The time before going to sleep is particularly effective because your brain will continue to work with the suggestions you are giving yourself during your self-hypnosis all through the night. 2) How to Create a Positive Suggestion for Yourself This is how I got into the habit of doing 15 minutes of high intensity training (HIT) every morning. - THE ACTION First you find an action or describe what you want in concrete terms. In my case, that was: I do 15 minutes of HIT every morning. - IN THE PRESENT TENSE Describe this action in the present. So don't say: I will do HIT. - ACHIEVABILITY You must be able to achieve this suggestion yourself. It must not depend on other people. - POSITIVE It is important that you formulate your suggestion positively. The unconscious, with which we want to work here, does not understand negations. So your unconscious mind understands the sentence "I am NOT afraid of spiders." as if you had said, "I am afraid of spiders." - FEEL-GOOD WORDS Use words that make you feel good right away. Make a list of words and feel which ones resonate with you. These could be, for example: wonderful, happiness, joy, energy, enjoy, easy. The suggestion could then be: I enjoy doing 15 minutes of high intensity training every morning. - SUGGESTION Formulate several suggestions for a goal or a change. This way your brain does not get bored and the neuronal networks for the change are strengthened. So for example: - My daily high intensity training gives me a lot of energy. - I look forward to doing my HIT every morning. - Every day I find it easier to do my 15 minutes of HIT. 3. Here is How - Think about a goal or something you want to change. - Formulate 3 - 5 suggestions according to the rules we have discussed. It is best to write them down by hand on a piece of paper. Research has shown that handwriting has a much stronger influence on us than writing on a computer or mobile phone. If you want, you can also write each sentence on an index card. - Put the sheet or index cards with your suggestions next to your bed. - In the evening, read a suggestion several times before turning off the light. Reading aloud is particularly effective. - The next morning, as soon as you wake up, read through the next suggestion several times. - I change the suggestion every day. This means that I read through the same suggestion in the morning and in the evening and then take a new suggestion the next morning. - It works especially well if you imagine what you are reading together with a positive feeling. I wish you lots of fun and success with the easiest self-hypnosis in the world ! :)

Selbst-Hypnose ist wirklich toll! Ich liebe die Selbst-Hypnose und benütze sie auch sehr gerne. Vielleicht möchtest du dir selbst etwas Gutes tun oder dir effektiv helfen und ungünstige Glaubenssätze oder Verhaltensweisen verändern? Dann ist Selbst-Hypnose genau das Richtige. Diese machtvolle Technik kannst du bei einem Hypnotiseur, in einem Kurs oder auch aus einem Buch lernen. Hier teile ich eine Selbst-Hypnose Methode mit dir. Sie ist wirklich sehr einfach und effektiv. Wie du das am besten machst, erkläre ich dir hier in 3 Schritten. 1. Auf den richtigen Zeitpunkt kommt es an Zweimal am Tag bist du auf ganz natürliche Weise in einem Trancezustand und daher sehr suggestibel. Das heißt, dass dein Unterbewusstsein weit geöffnet ist und Suggestionen, positive Sätze, Affirmationen und ähnliches ganz automatisch aufnehmen kann. Zu diesen Zeiten funken dir auch nicht das bewusste Denken und der Wächter zwischen den beiden Bewusstseinszuständen dazwischen. Diese besonderen Zeiten sind am Morgen gleich nach dem Aufwachen und am Abend kurz bevor du einschläfst. Wichtig ist, dass du diese Zeit auch für deine Selbsthypnose nutzt. Am Morgen machst du also zuerst deine Selbst-Hypnose Übung und checkst erst dann dein Handy, deine Kinder, deinen Partner oder tust, was du sonst normalerweise so am Morgen nach dem Aufstehen machst. Am Abend solltest du deine Suggestion so legen, dass sie das letzte ist, mit dem du dich beschäftigst. Du solltest also danach nichts anderes mehr lesen oder anhören. Die Zeit vor dem Schlafengehen ist ganz besonders wirkungsvoll. Dein Gehirn beschäftigt sich nämlich auch während der Nacht weiter mit deinen Suggestionen. 2. So bastelst du dir eine positive Suggestion Auf diese Weise habe ich mir zum Beispiel angewöhnt, jeden Morgen 15 Minuten High Intensity Training zu machen. • DIE AKTION Zuerst suchst du dir also eine Aktion, bzw. beschreibst, was du möchtest, ganz konkret. In meinem Fall war das: Ich mache jeden Morgen 15 Minuten HIT. • IM PRÄSENS Beschreibe diese Aktion in der Gegenwart. Sage also nicht: Ich werde HIT machen. • ERREICHBARKEIT Diese Suggestion musst du selbst erreichen können. Sie darf also nicht von anderen Menschen abhängen. • POSITIV Es ist wichtig, dass du deine Suggestion positiv formulierst. Das Unterbewusstsein, mit dem wir ja hier arbeiten möchten, versteht Verneinungen nicht. Dein Unterbewusstsein versteht also den Satz „Ich habe KEINE Angst vor Spinnen.“ so, als ob du gesagt hättest: „Ich habe Angst vor Spinnen.“ • WOHLFÜHL-WÖRTER Benütze Wörter, bei denen du dich gleich wohlfühlst. Mach dir eine Liste von Wörtern und spüre, welche dir besonders guttun. Das können zum Beispiel sein: herrlich, Glück, Freude, Energie, genießen, leicht. So könnte die Suggestion dann heißen: Es macht mir Spaß, jeden Morgen 15 Minuten High Intensitiy Training zu machen. • ABWECHSLUNG Formuliere gleich mehrere Suggestionen für ein Ziel oder eine Veränderung. So wird deinem Gehirn nicht langweilig und dadurch werden die neuronalen Netzwerke für die Veränderung gestärkt. Also zum Beispiel: - Mein tägliches High Intensity Training gibt mir viel Energie. - Ich freue mich darauf, jeden Morgen mein HIT zu machen. - Jeden Tag fällt es mir leichter, meine 15 Minuten HIT zu machen. 3. Und so geht’s • Überlege dir ein Ziel oder etwas, das du verändern möchtest. • Formuliere nach den besprochenen Regeln 3 – 5 Suggestionen. Am besten du schreibst sie mit der Hand auf ein Blatt. Es gibt Untersuchungen, die festgestellt haben, dass mit der Hand Geschriebenes uns viel stärker beeinflusst, als das, was wir am Computer oder auf dem Handy schreiben. Wenn du willst, kannst du auch jeden Satz auf eine Karteikarte schreiben. • Lege das Blatt oder die Karteikarten mit deinen Suggestionen neben dein Bett. • Lies dir abends eine Suggestion mehrere Male durch, bevor du das Licht ausmachst. Lautes Lesen ist besonders wirkungsvoll. • Am nächsten Morgen gleich nach dem Aufwachen liest du dir die nächste Suggestion öfter durch. • Ich wechsele die Suggestion jeden Tag. Das heißt dass ich am Morgen und am Abend dieselbe Suggestion durchlese und dann am nächsten Morgen eine neue Suggestion nehme. • Besonders gut funktioniert es, wenn du dir das, was du liest, gleichzeitig mit einem positiven Gefühl verbunden vorstellst. Ich wünsche dir ganz viel Freude und Erfolg bei der einfachsten Selbst-Hypnose der Welt! :)

The Run-up to Christmas and Stress Every year I hope that the pre-Christmas season will be a quiet, reflective time for me. I dream about it, I imagine it - and every year it doesn't happen! Usually this period becomes more like a race against time in order to get everything done that needs to be done. To prevent the run-up to Christmas from getting too stressful, I've been cutting down any appointments to a minimum in December and am only seeing a few clients. That helps a bit. Nevertheless, the mad rush is still there - decorating the house, getting the Advent wreath, baking Christmas cookies, getting the Christmas tree, decorating the Christmas tree and buying the presents! These presents need to be carefully chosen. Should you order online or rather buy them in a store? Of course, they should be great, very special gifts. We so want our loved ones to be really happy with them! Yes, and then it is already time to plan the meals for Christmas Eve and the bank holiday days, to do the shopping and of course to prepare them so that Christmas will be a wonderful event for the family. Of course, this year everything is a little different. But that is precisely why the festive season should be particularly beautiful! But all of this also has a price - it creates pressure and pressure creates stress! Give Yourself a Present When you are stressed, you are not doing so well. You're more impatient, get annoyed more easily, and you just don't feel that well. This is a pity. It is a pity for you, of course, but also for your family. People with whom you spend a lot of time, i.e. your partner and your children, feel very clearly that something is up. Very sensitive people around you may even absorb these rather unpleasant feelings. So, I have decided to approach the Christmas season differently this year. In the run-up to Christmas I do not only want to look after others, but also take good care of myself - giving myself a gift, so to speak. And I would also like to encourage you to give yourself many small gifts over the next few weeks. Over the next few weeks make a little time for yourself every day. Create an oasis of calm every day in your busy everyday life and just do something that nurtures you. That could be just 5 minutes - but it should happen every day for the next 24 days! Maybe you would like to make your own TIME-FOR-ME ADVENT CALENDAR . I have scheduled a time-for-me activity in my diary for every day from the 1st to the 24th December. Of course, you could also make an advent calendar with activities written on pieces of paper with the numbers 1-24 kept in a box or hung up on a string with clothes pegs. Your Anti-Stress Advent Calendar - Bring a Little More Peace to Your World Here is my collection of ideas. If you have children, tell them beforehand that you are now having some quiet time for yourself and that you may only be disturbed if an emergency of immense proportions occurs. • ENJOY SOME TIME OUT: Treat yourself to a 5-minute break with a cup of tea or coffee. Drink slowly and mindfully and enjoy. • TAKE A WALK: Take a leisurely stroll alone or with someone whose presence you find entirely enjoyable. • FILL YOURSELF WITH GREAT JOY: Sit down and think of 3 situations that are associated with great joy for you. Visualise every situation with all your senses: What can you see, hear, feel, smell and taste? Enjoy this feeling of joy and feel it get stronger. • BREATHE LOVE: Breathe into your heart Imagine your heart is like a nose. You can breathe into your heart and breathe out from your heart as well. After you've done this a few times, you can breathe love in and out through your heart. After a few more breaths you can start spreading this love inside your body as you exhale and let it expand inside you. So, you breathe in love through your heart and when you breathe out you let this love gradually fill your whole body. • LAUGH OR SMILE: Read a joke or a funny story. Remember something funny or just start laughing. In the end, it doesn't matter if you laugh properly or just pretend. Either way, you'll feel better afterwards. • BLESS OTHERS: Take a few moments and bless people around you. Simply imagine the person you want to bless and say in your head or out loud: " ... (name), I bless you. " If you want you can also use your heart-breath and send love from your heart. You probably have a lot of good ideas yourself on how you can give yourself the gift of some time to de-stress every day. Afterwards, you will feel empowered, happier, and more content. There is also some scientific basis to all this. All 6 exercises that I have described above will get you out of the stress mode we are in a lot of the time. When you are stressed, the sympathetic nervous system reigns. With the time-out activities, you now switch off the sympathetic nervous system and you activate the parasympathetic nervous system, which is responsible for relaxation. This allows your body and mind to relax and regenerate. Your body starts producing happiness hormones like serotonin or endorphins that make you feel much better. As a great side effect, they also strengthen your immune system! If you decide to only use my time-out activities, you can enjoy each activity 4 times over the 24 days up to Christmas. I hope you will experience a lot of joy and relaxation during your 24 little breaks. And you will see: Not only will you benefit from this time-out gift to yourself, but everyone around you will as well. If you would like to treat yourself to something that will get rid of your stress on a deeper level, then just come by for a hypnosis session. I look forward to seeing you! :)

You can't help your phobias You've probably heard of fear of heights, fear of spiders or claustrophobia, the fear of confined spaces. But actually, you can develop a fear of ANYTHING, including soap bubbles, buttons, butterflies and apples. All these specific fears are also called phobias. I'll explain how they develop below. "Pull yourself together. You really don't have to be afraid of a little spider." People with anxiety disorders have certainly heard enough of these sentences. But unfortunately, you cannot switch off fear so easily. Because intellectually, even people with anxiety disorders know that these fears are mostly completely unfounded. However, this knowledge does not help to get rid of these fears. Here is my take on this: Having a phobia is not your fault! Why fear? Originally, fear is first of all a protective mechanism and prevents us from recklessly putting our lives at risk. For our caveman ancestors, fear was important in order to be able to react appropriately to dangers such as encounters with wild animals or finding poisonous mushrooms. If a Stone Age man was very unconcerned and fearless with his environment, he probably did not live very long and is thus probably not an ancestor of ours. You are not alone! It is assumed that about 15% of all Germans suffer from an anxiety disorder. Besides phobias, this includes panic attacks, during which people can feel so bad that they think they are going to die. And there is also the generalised anxiety disorder, where people often have fears that something bad might happen to them or their loved ones. This makes anxiety disorders one of the most common mental illnesses. Unfortunately, they are often not recognised and therefore not treated. Now, up to what point is anxiety normal, even helpful and important, and where does anxiety disorder start? This can be different for different people. But as soon as it prevents someone from leading a normal life, anxiety is no longer helpful. So, if anxiety prevents you from taking the train or the lift, if you no longer go down to the basement for fear of spiders, or if anxiety prevents you from going outside at all and instead you barricade yourself at home, your life is very limited. Then the fear probably affects you so much that your thoughts become more and more preoccupied with this fear and you often think about how you can avoid this fear or the panic attack. You become additionally afraid of the fear. How and why your brain makes fear There is an almond-shaped part of your brain called the amygdala. The amygdala is constantly on the lookout for danger. It does this because it wants to protect you. A phobia arises because the amygdala associated a situation in which someone was frightened, for example, with the presence of a spider. Now, to guarantee our safety, the amygdala takes a kind of snapshot of this situation. From then on, it constantly compares all situations with this snapshot. If it finds a similar situation, in this case a situation with a spider, it immediately initiates the fear reaction because it wants to protect us from danger. In a fear reaction, the cerebrum is switched off so that we cannot react rationally at all. If someone has a phobia, they really can't help it. It is not their fault. You can't beat the phobia with pure willpower or the knowledge that your own reaction is exaggerated. It is locked in the unconscious mind and therefore not accessible via conscious thought. Getting rid of fear - How does it work? My motto is: Love your life - enjoy what you do. But if your fears are limiting you so much that you can no longer be happy with your life, it is high time to do something about it. The easiest way to get rid of anxiety is through hypnosis. Coaching methods and self-hypnosis also work, although more slowly than hypnotherapy with a hypnosis expert. The fear is dissolved in the unconscious mind. And then you can live a happy and carefree life again.

Du kannst nichts für deine Phobien Du hast vermutlich schon von Höhenangst gehört, von Angst vor Spinnen oder von Klaustrophobie, der Angst vor engen Räumen. Aber eigentlich kann man vor ALLEM Angst haben, also auch vor Seifenblasen, vor Knöpfen, vor Schmetterlingen und vor Äpfeln. All diese spezifischen Ängste nennt man auch Phobien. Wie die entstehen, erkläre ich weiter unten. „Jetzt reiß dich doch mal zusammen. Vor einer kleinen Spinne musst du doch nun wirklich keine Angst haben.“ Solche Sätze haben Menschen mit Angststörungen sicherlich schon zur Genüge gehört. Aber leider kann man die Angst nicht so einfach abschalten. Denn intellektuell wissen auch Menschen mit Angststörungen, dass diese Ängste zumeist völlig unbegründet sind. Aber das Wissen hilft leider kaum dabei, diese Ängste abzulegen. Und gleich vorweg: Du kannst nichts für deine Phobie. Warum Angst? Ursprünglich ist Angst erst einmal ein Schutzmechanismus und verhindert, dass wir unser Leben leichtsinnig aufs Spiel setzen. Für unser Höhlenmenschen-Vorfahren war die Angst wichtig, um angemessen auf Gefahren wie die Begegnung mit wilden Tieren oder das Finden von giftigen Pilzen reagieren zu können. Falls ein Steinzeit-Mensch sehr unbesorgt und angstfrei mit seiner Umwelt umging, wurde er vermutlich nicht sehr alt und ist damit vermutlich auch kein Vorfahre von uns. Du bist nicht allein! Man nimmt an, dass ungefähr 15% aller Deutschen an einer Angststörung leiden. Dazu gehören neben den Phobien auch Panikattacken, während denen es Menschen so schlecht gehen kann, dass sie denken, sie müssen sterben. Und es gibt auch eine generalisierte Angststörung, bei der Menschen häufig Ängste haben, dass ihnen oder ihren Lieben etwas Schlimmes zustoßen könnte. Damit gehören Angststörungen zu den häufigsten psychischen Krankheiten. Leider werden sie häufig nicht erkannt und daher auch nicht behandelt. Bis wohin ist nun die Angst normal, ja sogar hilfreich und wichtig und wo fängt die Angststörung an? Das kann bei verschiedenen Menschen unterschiedlich sein. Sobald es aber verhindert, dass jemand ein normales Leben führen kann, ist die Angst nicht mehr hilfreich. Wenn die Angst dich also daran hindert, in der S-Bahn oder im Lift zu fahren, wenn du aus Angst vor Spinnen nicht mehr in den Keller gehst oder wenn Ängste verhindern, dass du dich gar nicht mehr nach draußen traust und stattdessen zu Hause verbarrikadierst, ist dein Leben sehr eingeschränkt. Dann beeinflusst die Angst dich vermutlich so stark, dass du in Gedanken immer mehr mit dieser Angst beschäftigt bist und dir häufig überlegst, wie du diese Angst oder die Panikattacke vermeiden kannst. Du bekommst zusätzlich Angst vor der Angst. Wie und warum dein Gehirn die Angst macht. In deinem Gehirn gibt es ein mandelförmiges Teil, das auch Mandelkern oder Amygdala genannt wird. Die Amygdala ist ständig auf der Suche nach Gefahren. Das tut sie, weil sie dich schützen möchte. Eine Phobie entsteht, weil die Amygdala eine Situation, in der jemand zum Beispiel erschreckt wurde, mit der Anwesenheit einer Spinne in Verbindung brachte. Um nun unsere Sicherheit zu garantieren, macht die Amygdala eine Art Schnappschuss von dieser Situation. Von da an vergleicht sie ständig alle Situationen mit diesem Schnappschuss. Findet sie eine ähnliche Situation, also hier eine Situation mit einer Spinne, so leitet sie sofort die Angstreaktion ein, da sie uns so vor einer Gefahr schützen möchte. Bei einer Angstreaktion wird das Großhirn ausgeschaltet, so dass wir gar nicht rational reagieren können. Wenn jemand eine Phobie hat, so kann er wirklich nichts dafür. Mit purer Willensanstrengung oder dem Wissen, dass die eigene Reaktion übertrieben ist, kannst du die Phobie nicht besiegen. Sie ist im Unterbewusstsein und daher über das bewusste Denken nicht zugänglich. Die Angst loswerden – Wie geht das? Mein Motto ist: Love your life – enjoy what you do. Also: Liebe dein Leben und hab Spaß bei dem, was du tust. Wenn deine Ängste dich aber so stark einschränken, dass du nicht mehr glücklich mit deinem Leben sein kannst, ist es höchste Zeit etwas zu tun. Am einfachsten kannst du Ängste wirklich durch Hypnose loswerden. Dabei funktionieren auch Coaching Methoden und Selbsthypnose, wenn auch langsamer als die Hypotherapie mit einem Hypnose-Experten. Die Angst wird im Unterbewusstsein aufgelöst. Und dann kannst du wieder ein glückliches und unbeschwertes Leben führen.

Here you will learn what the 3 Cs have to do with feelings. But more about this later. It might surprise you, but many people are not in touch with their feelings. Maybe you regularly feel inside yourself and therefore know what emotions you are feeling. Brilliant! Or maybe you are like me and know it would be a good idea but at times you are simply too busy or you forget. But feelings are really important for everybody, for our wellbeing, our mental and our physical health. They are actually the basis for a happy, successful life. And here you will find out why this is so and what you can do about it. 1. FEELINGS ARE YOUR COMPASS This is the first C is for Compass. First of all, feelings - no matter whether we perceive them as positive or negative - are information. They show us our mental state in this moment in time. Therefore, it makes little sense to ignore them. I usually give my clients a ladder list of emotions. At the bottom are feelings like shame, sadness, anger, stress. In the middle is boredom, calmness. And at the top are the positive feelings like love, gratitude, happiness. With this sheet it is easy to determine where you are emotionally at any moment. If you would like this LIST OF EMOTIONS send me an email to mail@brittoldfield.com so I can mail it to you. 2. FEELINGS ARE LIKE LITTLE CHILDREN C number two is for Children. Feelings are like children. If ignored, they keep coming and tugging at our t-shirts until we notice them. If we ignore them for a long time, they sometimes manifest as an illness. Every feeling wants to be seen and felt. Often it disappears by itself after a while. But if we start telling ourselves a problematic story to go with a feeling like sadness, anger, frustration this feeling then connects to that story and it sticks. The more often we tell ourselves this unfortunate story, the more momentum story and feeling gather and the more they get established in our unconscious mind. And once there, they do not do us any good and they are very difficult to remove. 3. WITH FEELING - THE ONLY WAY IS CLIMBING UP The third and last C is for Climbing up. In the end, it's not about ignoring or glossing over bad, unwanted feelings. It's about taking them seriously, and then starting the journey up the ladder of emotions again. Because, let’s be honest, our goal is always to feel good, happy, empowered, loved, to be able to feel lots of positive feelings. At the top of the ladder of emotions we feel better, we have more energy and our lives become happier and more successful. So, once you know where you are on that ladder of emotions, you can start climbing up. And that's how you get back to the top when you are down: You can allow the feeling and feel it without attaching any negative meaning or story to it. In most cases it will disappear after a while. You can find out why you have this feeling . This is especially helpful if you can make changes . Maybe it is better to take a little less responsibility. Or your family could help out a little more around the house. Can you take more time off? Will a morning routine help you have more energy for the day? Can you go to bed earlier? If there is nothing you can change in your environment, look inside yourself . Can you help yourself through breathing, meditation or self-hypnosis? Can you resolve to think different thoughts and put that into action? It really works! Now that you know how important your feelings are, keep feeling inside yourself. Then you will know if you are already in a place of strength and joy emotionally. If not, then you should start the journey upwards, so that you feel really good again, that you feel empowered and can lead a happy and successful life.

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Where Are You? - Bavaria Or Alaska: A Big Difference If you had the choice between stress, anxiety, lack of energy, victim mentality on one hand and joy, contentment, creativity, strength, an easy life on the other hand, we would all know which choice to make. The problem is: we know it, BUT WE DON'T DO IT! It's as if you would like to travel to Bavaria but have your sat nav set up for Alaska. It doesn't matter how much you scream and curse or are determined to go to Bavaria. The sat nav will keep showing you the way to Alaska. It All Depends On The Focus That is exactly what we do with our lives. We have set our lives in the direction of Alaska. Not that I want to speak badly of Alaska. But if you don't want to go there, then that is not the right place for you. So, we actually want to live a life that is filled with joy, happiness, success and lots of great people. But our sat nav is set for the wrong destination and so we only get more of what we already have and don't want: stress, anxiety, frustration. Because unfortunately it is like this: You get more of what you focus on! I call this focus the centre of your thoughts. It is what you think about most of the time. If you keep thinking about all the jobs that you have yet to do, you are moving towards stress and anxiety. If you keep thinking about your problems, you move towards stress and anxiety. If you keep thinking about an old argument or that someone treated you unfairly, you are moving towards stress and anxiety. If you want a simpler, happier, and more successful life, change the centre of your thoughts! 3 Tips On How To Change The Centre Of Your Thoughts 1. Where are you right now? First you have to find out where you are right now. Maybe by now you are in Austria. Then Bavaria is not far away. But how do you find out where you are exactly? • Observe yourself often. Feel inside yourself often. • What are you doing? What are you thinking? What are you feeling? • And most importantly: How do you talk to yourself? 2. Where do you want to go? The next step is to determine what you want. This can be quite a challenge. I ask all of my clients this question. Many know exactly what they don't want and they can talk about it endlessly. But finding a new set point for your sat nav proves very difficult for most people. This is because they have already made themselves very comfortable in the negative, limiting thinking. The brain likes familiar things, but no surprises! Stress, anxiety and negative attitudes are familiar and therefore give us a feeling of security! It might well take quite a bit of effort to create a new, positive blueprint for your life that is much more fulfilling than your current life! It's a bit as if your sat nav gets stuck on the destination Alaska. You may have to turn it off and reboot it and then enter your new destination Bavaria. So, there might be some work involved! But it's worth it! 3. How do you do that? When you have your new goal, you make it the centre of your thoughts. At times I get lost in my to-do-list. When that happens I only think of the mountain that I still have to work through. But why am I exposing myself to this stress? When it comes to my job, the reason is to earn enough money to have a good life. Or when it comes to a clean, tidy home, the reason is to enjoy my time there. We often tend to think that we have to do certain things or achieve certain goals in order to be happy afterwards. BUT STOP! It doesn't work that way! In reality it works the other way round! When your center of thought is YOU and YOUR EASY AND FANTASTIC LIFE, suddenly you see things differently and you also do things in a different way. Because suddenly you're no longer doing things for your demanding boss or because they have to be done, but you do them for yourself. The center of your thoughts is now that you are happy. That you are going towards the life you are dreaming about. Your trip now goes to Bavaria and no longer to Alaska. But isn't that selfish you might ask. No. In fact, it's just the opposite. If everyone were to put their own well-being first - not at the expense of others, of course, but by taking good care of themselves - our world would be a better place. Then there would be a lot of happy people and happy, satisfied people always want everyone else around them to be happy too! So, my message is: Take care of yourself because you are the most important person in your life. Take responsibility for your own life by setting your sat nav to love, laughter and ease and then by following your settings. Keep checking over and over again what you are making the center of your thoughts. Does it help you or does it prevent you from living a happy life? Maybe it's enough if you keep reminding yourself: I AM IMPORTANT! I ALLOW MYSELF TO LEAD A HAPPY LIFE! You will see that something amazing will happen. The things that need to be done are much easier for you to do. Important things are not left behind when you make yourself and your well-being the focus of your thoughts. Working becomes easier and more fun. And you might find some things that you do not want to do anymore. You will see that your life is getting better and better. Look forward to this new, fantastic life! If you would like support in making yourself the centre of your thoughts and leading a happy life, book my FREE CONSULTATION. Then we can work out together how I can help you live the life of your dreams.

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